Showing posts with label anti-bully. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anti-bully. Show all posts

Thursday, February 27, 2014

BullyProof Your Child - Certification Training for Parents, Teachers and Youth Leaders in Phoenix AZ



BullyProof Your Child - Certification Training for Parents, Teachers and Youth Leaders

Bodyguard trainer says the reason reports of bullying on the rise is because adults are encouraging victim culture and creating soft target kids.

Following the flood of media reports on bullying, cyber bullying related teen suicide, some parents and teachers are taking steps to prepare children for the hazards they face in school, camp and life.
In addition to fire safety, internet safety, how to swim, the 911 emergency system, parents are adding sexual abuse prevention, self defense from depression, obesity, diabetes and BULLYING.
They are doing this with a unique program developed by safety specialist and bodyguard trainer John Nottingham.
John Nottingham has been on the front lines of bullying prevention for nearly thirty years teaching children, men and women how to handle bullying effectively.  He uses a method developed from strategies he teaches to bodyguards to spot potential problems in advance, redirect behavior with words, and change the context of a would be bullying situation.
Listen to Our Chief Instructor 

John Nottingham Discuss the USA Martial Arts Anti-Bully Program on the
 
Outreach Today Radio Show

BULLYING FACTS:
  • Bullying is the most common form of violence in American society according to the National Association of School Psychologists.
  • Bullying affects 15 to 30 percent of students as either bullying child or the targets of bullying
  • Studies have shown that adults who were bullied as children have a much higher level of depression and lower self-esteem than those who were not.
The facts show that over 85% of bullying goes unreported. 
Nottingham's BullyProof Vest strives to offer the most practical and effective bullying prevention program available. 
Learn more about bullying, how to prevent or resolve it, and more about the Bullying Prevention Initiative International organization or the Arizona chapter Arizona Bullying Prevention Initiative.
Protect your children with bullying prevention skills and strategies by contacting USA Martial Arts Phoenix and a certified bully prevention specialist to inquire about upcoming seminars based on the Bullying Prevention Initiative International programs.

info@usa-martialarts.com
602-896-8721

Saturday, April 7, 2012

Bullying Prevention Program by Bodyguards Helps Kids Battle Bullying Peacefully and With Dignity



Bully Armor | Bullying Shield | BullyProof Vest Bully Defense | How To Deal With Bullying

BullyProof Vest is to my knowledge, the only bullying prevention program developed by professional protectors in cooperation with educators, therapists, parents and children.  I believe it is also the only program that incorporates advanced threat assessment.  Unlike most programs, it does not offer generic advice or overly specific advice as prescription without diagnosis.  Our first role is to listen, investigate and then advise an appropriate course of action.  Our focus is efficacy and have a 26 year track record of success in handling bullying behavior.  

Built On The Golden Rule - Respect, Empathy and Compassion
One of the key elements of our instruction is instilling a foundation of respect.  This is part of an inclusive school/organizational culture that comes from identifying core values then reinforcing those values at every echelon.  This culture of gentility, compassion and kindness goes a long way in making an environment a more civil place.

John Nottingham's Three Shields of Bullying Prevention
The child targeted for bullying, the child who is bullying and the social environment are all treated.  This is part of what we refer to as The Three Shields Bullying Prevention Strategy.  It is oriented toward a long term solution as well as immediate measures for the safety and well-being of a child.

BullyProofing & Victim-Proofing
Another component of our instruction encompasses emotional resilience training, but never blaming the child being targeted for bullying.  While other programs may encourage tattling (bullying by proxy/abdication), children learn the difference between telling and tattling (ratting - age appropriate vernacular).  Teachers are a resource - not professional protectors, bodyguards or bullying Police.  Punitive measures are a slippery slope that must be navigated carefully or it can backfire, escalate or have other unintended consequences.  Our approach takes a different path that is more child, proactive and safety oriented.  This gives children hope, dignity and options so they do not resort to detrimental or extreme ends.

Bullying Prevention is Built on a Foundation of Respect and a Respect Culture
The goal is to teach students to respect and protect free speech while protecting themselves with mental, emotional and even physical blocks or defense.  We role play body language (assertion competence), word blocks (Verbal Judo), and teach skills to put things in context (threat assessment) to make wiser judgement and problem solve (The ABC's of conflict avoidance/S.T.A.R.).

Bullying Prevention to Train The Trainers
More often these days my role is working with staff and other influential leaders to develop and assess bullying prevention programs and protocols, however, I am happy to be of any service that ads value or contributes toward the safety and peace of mind of children.  

Worldwide Bullying Prevention Collaboration to Raise Awareness
My Bullying Prevention Initiative International organization have just initiated a plan to collaborate with an international event on Bullying Prevention with the participation of school children around the world.  A variety of celebrities are on board as well as other significant promotional efforts.  This will be the largest awareness endeavor on bullying prevention to date.  We will be releasing more shortly.  Please advise if interested in being part of it.

Free Bullying Prevention Workshops "How To Deal With Bullying Like a Bodyguard" 
I also host regular Bullying Prevention workshops, camps and training as a community service at my USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing school in Phoenix. I would encourage readers to consider sending students, teachers, parents or interested parties. 

Here are some links to some information:

Even if you choose not to work with me, I hope these resources can provide you with some valuable insights, research and information to make a more informed choice.  Thank you in advance for your consideration and your efforts to build a more peaceful community.

Respectfully,

John Nottingham
Arizona Bullying Prevention Project
Bullying Prevention Initiative International
Community Partners in Peace Education
USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing Phoenix
Nottingham Sword & Shield Security Bodyguards
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Bulling Secret Kid Code: "Bullying is bad but telling is worse"



Kids Tell Me Why They Allow Bullying.  Want to Know the Answer?
Free Bullying Prevention Workshops and Guide By John Nottingham's USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing Phoenix & Nottingham Sword & Shield Security Bodyguards as part of the Arizona Bullying Prevention Project.

Over the years of being a target of bullying, clawing my way out and helping thousands of others do the same, I have a particular perspective with bullies, bullying and bystanders.  Once I am able to build a relationship of trust with my students I ask the children or teens why they don't tell when they are being bullied.

Here's what they say...

Bullied Tween: "Bullying is better than telling." 
They tell me that they put up with it because bullying is better than telling.  They feel or have experienced that if and when they tell that the bullying gets worse.  In some cases that is not true, however, for many of them it is.

Bullied Child: "I'd rather be bullied than caught tattling." 
In my own experience, I didn't want to tell because it did make things worse.  I also saw how my father over - reacted.  It made me feel like a failure as his son.  Now I know that it was just his love for me and misguided attempt at protecting me.  For the most part, he wasn't angry at me but rather the situation.

Bullied Teen:  "Being bullied is better than ratting.  It's just the rule of cool in school" 
To be frank though, my Dad did carry a bit of disapproval that I wasn't standing up for myself like he would have.  I could see it and feel it.  The fact that I was being bullied also embarrassed my brothers that I was such a pansy I couldn't handle my business.  I just didn't have a mean or violent bone in my body and couldn't bear the thought of harming someone or getting in trouble.  I also didn't want my peers seeing me as a tattle tale or rat, who got them in trouble.  I wanted my family, teachers and peers to like, or at least respect me.  In my kid way of thinking (victim mindset), it seemed easier to take the abuse and keep things manageable.  I was wrong, but that was my uninformed thinking at that time in my life.

Reasons Kids Don't Tell About Bullying
  • Overreaction of parents, teachers or coaches
  • Have been ignored in the past "It doesn't do any good."
  • Unwanted attention (Make an embarrassing fuss)
  • Loss of respect and/or acceptance of peers
  • Feeling of failure
  • Afraid of retribution and consequences
  • Don't want to get in trouble
  • Don't want to get other kids in serious trouble
  • Fear from threats, intimidation
  • Fear of disappointing parents, teachers, others
  • Don't want to admit that it bothers them as much as it does 
  • Feel even less accepted and like something is wrong with them when they have to acknowledge it or talk about it
  • Past experiences taught them it makes bullying get worse
  • Loss of respect and dignity in others eyes
We'll help you find your voice, your power and your ability to protect yourself with dignity.
For most children and teens it is about peer acceptance and survival.  They have to live in a kids world where they are forced into structured environments where they struggle to fit in.   Additionally I find out that they do not want to feel weak or whiny - some of the same feelings I had when I was their age.  The drive to be accepted is so great that they weigh the abuse and choose to take it.

Help is Available When You're Ready
In order for this to change, several things need to take place.  It starts with changing the psychology, mindset and belief system of the targeted individual.  Of course there is much more to it than that, but it is the foundation from which everything else is built.  Not only do I have personal experience with it, I've helped thousands of others as well.  There is hope for you or your child to move from bullying target/victim to victor.

If you want to learn more about how to effectively treat bullying, stop victimization and end bullying permanently then you'll want to join us on Facebook or get in touch with us right away.  Many of the resources and information are free.  We can also recommend successful bullying prevention programs.

I'm offering my help to you or your child.  USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing Phoenix is offering free bullying prevention training and a guide.  Simply contact us at info@usa-martialarts.com and provide your contact information.  We promise to handle the situation with discretion, confidentiality, respect and preserve you or your child's dignity.  We're on your side and have lots of experience.

Don't give up!  You're worth fighting for,

John Nottingham
Bullying Prevention Specialist
Bullying Prevention Initiative International  BPII Facebook
Arizona BullyProof Project  ABPP Facebook





Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Bully Buster Bodyguard Teaches Children, Parents and Teachers New Way To Handle Bullies and Bullying

CLICK to listen to Founder John Nottingham's 
Bully Busters Radio Interview

Message from Bullying Prevention Initiative International Founder John Nottingham

Bullying, aggressive behavior, rude remarks, social aggression, and wielding of power have always been around and they won't be going anywhere soon.  The recent politically motivated so called anti-bullying movement attempting to "stop bullying" is taking a, not only misguided and destined to fail approach, but a potentially dangerous one as well.

Bullying is a self defense, parenting and counseling issue.

I was recently on a radio interview called Bully Busters as a call in expert (I would say specialist).  One self proclaimed experts spouted some fear inducing media sound-bytes and then proclaimed that "Bullying Must Stop! We need more laws and more rules to stop it."  The arrogance of the statement and this false and failed ideology is one of the reasons I created the Bullying Prevention Initiative International.

Bringing Common Sense and a Dose of Reality To Bullying Prevention
The idea that we can eradicate bullying with laws, posters and education is tantamount to saying we can create world peace if we just give these people enough power and money.  With respect to their good intentions, we should just put those promoting this on a bus and use this idea to create world peace.  It lacks any basis in reality of history, research or common sense, yet it is thriving.    

DARE, GREAT, STRANGER DANGER Witch Hunts & Alarmism, Now Anti-Bullying
These same types gave us DARE, GREAT, and the Stranger Danger movement.  Over a billion dollars spent and yet the research shows little to no effect, and in some cases, ill effects from those programs.  The fact is that this is not within their power and sadly, they ignore what is.  It is in our power to protect children by teaching them to respond to bullying appropriately.

Schools Can't Keep Your Kids Safe From Bullies
The Department of Justice own data on bullying offers no effective solutions for a child who is the target of a persistent bully.  Furthermore, the list of headlines on youth suicides, attacks, shootings and bullying incidents prove that the school system cannot be entrusted with your child's safety.  I see parents and children who the system has failed and have fallen through the cracks at my martial arts school and bullying prevention programs.  It is a parents responsibility to equip a child for the world we live in.

"Give a man a fish, feed him for a day.  Teach a man to fish and feed him for life."

Proof Positive That These Bullying Prevention Methods Work!
For over 26 years my team and I have successfully showed men, women and children how to prevent bullying, deal with bullying and thwart bullying attacks.  Now that culmination of experience and knowledge is put into a training program that can be learned via DVD, books, online streaming video, or best - live with one of our BPII trainers.   Now you can ARM your child with the inner-strength and tools to protect themselves against aggressive behavior, bullying and live a life free from those fears.

John Nottingham's Bully Proof Vest
John Nottingham's Bully Proof Vest curriculum gives children the advanced bullying recognition skills to spot a set up and the signs of bullying before it begins.  They are equipped with verbal judo strategies to handle themselves with a centered calm and walk away with dignity in tact.  They develop an unshakable confidence with non-violent, force appropriate self defense techniques that protect them and others in case of a physical attack.  

John Nottingham's Bully Proof and Self Defense methods have been featured in numerous schools and presented to thousands of children for over two decades and has an extraordinary success rate.  Featured on channels, 3, 5, 10, 12 and 15, Good Morning Arizona, The Arizona Republic and in various publications, John Nottingham is a recognized personal safety, bullying and self defense security expert (he say's "specialist").

 To find out more visit us online
or email info@usa-martialarts.com

Monday, March 12, 2012

Bully Self Defense The Proven, Peaceful, Practical & Powerful Way


Bully Self Defense The Proven, Peaceful, Practical & Powerful Way

Click Here to make your child “BULLY-PROOF” or call 602-896-8721
Listen Free to Bullying Specialist John Nottingham's Radio Interview on Bully Busters

Bullying In Arizona and America

Arizona has adopted one of the more expensive and ineffective bullying prevention programs.  On a regular basis we see children who have fallen through the cracks and need help with bullying.  "Their parents are desperate to get them help that provides practical solutions to real life bullying problems."  When your childs school anti-bullying program has failed, where can you turn?  Now you can have answers from professional protectors, not impotent, fearful professional pencil pushers.

Bullying has become a prevalent problem in American Society and a hot topic in Arizona.  


Bullying is a widespread and serious problem that can happen anywhere. It is not a phase children have to go through, it is not "just messing around", and it is not something to grow out of. Bullying can cause serious and lasting harm.

The three conditions need to exist to be categorized as bullying behavior:
  • Imbalance of Power: people who bully use their power to control or harm and the people being bullied may have a hard time defending themselves
  • Intent to Cause Harm: actions done by accident are not bullying; the person bullying has a goal to cause harm [This has since been called into question as a defining criteria.]
  • Repetition: incidents of bullying happen to the same the person over and over by the same person or group
Bullying Fact: Bullying is the #1 reason for absenteeism in schools.
What Are The Types of Bullying?
  • Physical: kicking, pinching, punching, slapping, poking, hitting, pinning, pulling, tripping, shoving 
  • Verbal: harassment, name-calling, teasing, taunting, insulting, mocking
  • Social: spreading rumors, leaving people out on purpose, breaking up friendships 
  • Cyberbullying: using the Internet, mobile phones or other digital technologies to harm others


Founder Was Target of Bullying

Founder, John Nottingham was the target of bullying and understands the pain, anguish, and trauma bullying can cause.  That is why John is so passionate about this subject.  
Feeling bullied and powerless was one of the primary reasons John Nottingham joined martial arts.  

If you feel powerless, trapped and frustrated as the target of bullying in school, at home, in the street, and on the playground then you have found an ally in John Nottingham.

Once John started training with martial arts, the bullying stopped almost instantly.  Once you know how to protect yourself and have these Bully Proofing skills, it makes a difference.  You carry yourself differently, address people differently and see problems in a whole new way.  
The empathy, compassion from remembering the feeling of helplessness is what makes our instructors so motivated to help children like us who experienced bullying.

Teaching Control - Not Violence

Some bullying prevention methods encourage violence, that is being a bigger bully and teaching them a lesson.  They forget that this often makes things worse and can escalate a situation to very dangerous levels of force.  Some other martial arts systems teach higher violence against violence which can get children into serious trouble, including with the law. 

"Our techniques are derived from teaching bouncers, law enforcement and bodyguards how to intercept violence before it begins and neutralize it in the most peaceful way possible.  Just as we do for law enforcement, we reverse engineer bullying attack scenarios children face and make them age appropriate.  We use strategy, leverage, distraction and mechanics to resolve bullying attacks. They are simple, proven and step by step bully violence neutralization techniques, concepts and principles that de-escalate a self defense situation."

Bully Defense The Wrong Way

Many martial arts (and hand to hand combat systems) teach a child to react with striking such as punches, kicks, knees, and elbows. These are problematic with school policies, not camera friendly, and can cause serious damage to another child.  In our oppinion, the punitive and percussive methods also may have a higher likelihood of escalating violence, retaliation or revenge attacks. 


Bully Defense The Right and Responsible Way

The Bully Proof Vest Self Defense program starts by teaching children how to recognize danger and avoid it.  Then they learn to verbally defuse potentially violent situations, to stop an attack or fight before it starts. However, if attacked, our students know force specific restraining self defense techniques that are defensive, use no striking, and can non-violently neutralize a bully attack. 

Fighting Fire With Water Peaceful Bully Solutions

The confidence provided by the Bully Self Defense program teaches our students, as the John Nottingham says, “to fight fire, be water and extinguish the flames.”

What Makes Our Bullying Solutions Approach Unique?
  • Peaceful approach where physical intervention (self defense) is the last resort
  • Based on Proven Bodyguard Tactics
  • Builds The Individual's Confidence and Inner Strength
  • Encourages Empathy, Kindness and Courage
  • Force Appropriate So Children Don't Go Overboard (It protects both children)
  • Proven practical for over 25 years - research and evidence based
  • Fun teaching method that is age appropriate
  • Continually updated and improved
Get started today and ARM your child with self confidence and inner strength to life a life of happiness and peace of mind.  

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Sunday, March 11, 2012

Bully Self Defense - Practical Bullying Prevention Program


Bully Self Defense

A Practical Guide to Protecting Your Child From Bullying
Click Here to make your child “BULLY-PROOF” or call 602-896-8721

John Nottingham's Bully Proof Vest Bulling Self Defense 
Bully Proofing Your Child For Life!  Non-Violent Answers To Aggression The Peaceful Way
5 Steps To Handle a Bully Like a Bodyguard, a unique book and program designed by a bodyguard trainer, martial arts master, teacher and advanced threat assessment specialist. For over twenty years, John Nottingham has been teaching men, women and children how to  successfully deal with bullies, bullying and abusive situations in a peaceful manner.
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Bullying In The United States

Bullying has become a prevalent problem in American Society. An American Justice Department school and cyber-bullying study shows that 1 out of every 4 kids will be bullied and that 150,000 kids miss school everyday in fear of bullying.  Victims want to defend themselves, but most are too afraid for their personal safety and well being to do so

Statistics In America

  • 1 out of 4 kids is Bullied.
  • 150,000 kids miss school everyday in fear of bullying
  • 77% of students are bullied mentally, verbally, & physically.
  • 1 out of 5 kids admits to being a bully, or doing some “Bullying.”
  • 8% of students miss 1 day of class per month for fear of Bullies.
  • 43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school.
  • 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month.

Bully Proof Your Child Today and Learn How To Defeat Bullying The Bodyguard Way!

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