Bullied. My Kid is Just Too Nice

"My child is being bullied because they are too nice."  This is a frequent comment from parents bringing their children to us for help at The Phoenix BullyProof Project and USA Martial Arts. 

The problem is that it is simply not true.  I'll get to that in a moment.

It is tough to see your child suffer the teasing, taunting or cruel comments and treatment by other kids.  Most of us have memories of those awkward school days of nasty remarks and behavior.  While some children are able to negotiate these situations, others aren't so easily able to manage.

Fix The World - Not My Kid
Just recently I had a mother bring her daughter to us to get help and say, "I want my daughter to learn how to deal with bullies and stand up for herself.  I think she's just too nice."  I empathized with her situation and told her that many other children experience the same thing and parents frequently bring their kids to us for the same reason.  I did an assessment and my response to her statement surprised and upset her.

Uncomfortable Myths
"That's not true.  Your daughter isn't being too nice.  In fact, she's not nice at all.  She is passive.  Passive is not nice; it is weak and powerless.  Being weak and giving your power away is not nice or respectful to herself.  Saying that she is 'nice' is justifying a dangerous behavior.  Powerlessness attracts abuse just like in nature as prey behavior attracts predatory attacks."

Passive = Permissive

Statistically we know that children who demonstrate passive behavior are the most likely to be the targets for bullying and many kinds of abuse.  It is a serious risk factor.  Children whom are perceived to be passive and quiet are targeted because they are deemed by predators as least likely to tell, be resourceful or resist.  

Truth is Not the Enemy

The mother looked at me as if I was the enemy.  I could see that she had not had anyone with real experience in resolving bullying situations talk honestly and directly to her.  In fact, it was evident that she was put off by my blunt diagnosis and assessment.  Furthermore, the Mother, at some level, knew she was being passive and didn't like how my comment made her feel as a Mom.  It is much more satisfying to hear that you are a victim than you have some controlling stake in the process and can take steps to change it.

What Most Parents Want to Hear

It's not your fault. Let's blame someone else.  Let's get revenge on all the mean people who hurt your baby.  

Are You Participating in the Abuse Cycle?

"I can tell from your energy and demeanor that you are modeling passive behavior and body language to her.  If she believes she is powerless, then she will continue to be the target for abuse.  It will not change unless you and she are willing to change.  She will have to learn how to stand up for herself by being assertive.  By the way, assertive does not mean aggressive."

Teasing, Bullying, Suffering -  We Provide Real Hope
The pain of being teased, bullied and picked on from being passive is one I am very familiar with. I've been teaching men, women and children how to successfully protect themselves for over 30 years now.  It begins with not giving away our power.  It will be uncomfortable - but very worth it.  It will be a process but we are here to guide and teach.    Your daughter is suffering needlessly.  When would you like to see that change?"

Unwilling = Unchanging
The mother folded her arms and looked away.  I gave her one of my Anti-bullying books as a free gift to demonstrate my commitment to help.  She hung around a bit while I did some role playing with her daughter and then departed.  My prediction is that she and her daughter will continue to have these problems in the future.  You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink.  

Hope

I am confident that one day she will return to us when she has accepted this hard and inconvenient fact.  When she does, we will be ready to guide her and her daughter to greater hope, empowerment and personal freedom from suffering.  Change begins when we accept responsibility and help - however uncomfortable and inconvenient.  Most security, and peace of mind, comes at the price of inconvenience.

John Nottingham is on a mission to empower individuals to effectively protect themselves and deal with bullying behavior with a proven peace process that offers hope and healing.  He is a family man living in the Scottsdale/Phoenix Arizona area.  An Amazon Best Seller, you may recognize him from his appearances in the media as a safety & security expert.  He is the founder of the Phoenix BullyProof Project, International Bullying Prevention Initiative, Nottingham Sword & Shield Security and a 7th Degree Master Instructor of USA Martial Arts Phoenix.  If you are interested in Bullying Prevention Certification or to have him speak to your school, church, company or organization please contact info@usa-martialarts.com   

HELP with Bullying - Anti-Bullying Tips

Arizona Bullying Intervention Initiative Phoenix BullyProof Project

General Types of Bullying

• Physical
• Mental
• Manipulation

H.E.L.P. Method for Bullying Prevention

H

Have a good plan for preventing bullying.  Avoid those situations that lead to bullying.  Stay away from insults, teasing and picking on others.  Avoid reacting to taunts, teasing and harassment.  Bullying back makes things worse.

E

Elevate your awareness.  Know what bullying is and what bullying behavior looks like.  Bullying can be done by anyone, boys, girls, tall, short, older and even younger.  Remember that bullying is a behavior that needs to be avoided.  Decide not to be a bully.

L

Learn to ask for help.  It's OK to feel afraid but don't be scared to ask for the help you need.  Ask in private not in public.  You don't want to embarrass or anger others.  It is better to go to a teacher, parent or coach and report bullying behavior to help the person.

P

Protect your mind and body.  Imagine mean words as a gift you can choose to accept or just throw away.  That is your power.  As a last resort, you should shield yourself and escape to safety.  Cover your head with your arms, use a table or other object as a barrier to buy time for you can escape.

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Bulling Secret Kid Code: "Bullying is bad but telling is worse"

Kids Tell Me Why They Allow Bullying.  Want to Know the Answer?
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Over the years of being a target of bullying, clawing my way out and helping thousands of others do the same, I have a particular perspective with bullies, bullying and bystanders.  Once I am able to build a relationship of trust with my students I ask the children or teens why they don't tell when they are being bullied.

Here's what they say...

Bullied Tween: "Bullying is better than telling." 
They tell me that they put up with it because bullying is better than telling.  They feel or have experienced that if and when they tell that the bullying gets worse.  In some cases that is not true, however, for many of them it is.

Bullied Child: "I'd rather be bullied than caught tattling." 
In my own experience, I didn't want to tell because it did make things worse.  I also saw how my father over - reacted.  It made me feel like a failure as his son.  Now I know that it was just his love for me and misguided attempt at protecting me.  For the most part, he wasn't angry at me but rather the situation.

Bullied Teen:  "Being bullied is better than ratting.  It's just the rule of cool in school" 
To be frank though, my Dad did carry a bit of disapproval that I wasn't standing up for myself like he would have.  I could see it and feel it.  The fact that I was being bullied also embarrassed my brothers that I was such a pansy I couldn't handle my business.  I just didn't have a mean or violent bone in my body and couldn't bear the thought of harming someone or getting in trouble.  I also didn't want my peers seeing me as a tattle tale or rat, who got them in trouble.  I wanted my family, teachers and peers to like, or at least respect me.  In my kid way of thinking (victim mindset), it seemed easier to take the abuse and keep things manageable.  I was wrong, but that was my uninformed thinking at that time in my life.

Reasons Kids Don't Tell About Bullying

• Overreaction of parents, teachers or coaches
• Have been ignored in the past "It doesn't do any good."
• Unwanted attention (Make an embarrassing fuss)
• Loss of respect and/or acceptance of peers
• Feeling of failure
• Afraid of retribution and consequences
• Don't want to get in trouble
• Don't want to get other kids in serious trouble
• Fear from threats, intimidation
• Fear of disappointing parents, teachers, others
• Don't want to admit that it bothers them as much as it does 
• Feel even less accepted and like something is wrong with them when they have to acknowledge it or talk about it
• Past experiences taught them it makes bullying get worse
• Loss of respect and dignity in others eyes

We'll help you find your voice, your power and your ability to protect yourself with dignity.
For most children and teens it is about peer acceptance and survival.  They have to live in a kids world where they are forced into structured environments where they struggle to fit in.   Additionally I find out that they do not want to feel weak or whiny - some of the same feelings I had when I was their age.  The drive to be accepted is so great that they weigh the abuse and choose to take it.

Help is Available When You're Ready
In order for this to change, several things need to take place.  It starts with changing the psychology, mindset and belief system of the targeted individual.  Of course there is much more to it than that, but it is the foundation from which everything else is built.  Not only do I have personal experience with it, I've helped thousands of others as well.  There is hope for you or your child to move from bullying target/victim to victor.

If you want to learn more about how to effectively treat bullying, stop victimization and end bullying permanently then you'll want to join us on Facebook or get in touch with us right away.  Many of the resources and information are free.  We can also recommend successful bullying prevention programs.

I'm offering my help to you or your child.  USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing Phoenix is offering free bullying prevention training and a guide.  Simply contact us at info@usa-martialarts.com and provide your contact information.  We promise to handle the situation with discretion, confidentiality, respect and preserve you or your child's dignity.  We're on your side and have lots of experience.

Don't give up!  You're worth fighting for,

John Nottingham
Bullying Prevention Specialist
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How To Deal With a Bully's Attacks, Taunts, Insults, Rumors, Teasing, Torment, and Harassment

How To Deal With a Bully's Attacks, Taunts, Insults, Rumors, Teasing, Torment, and Harassment 

What will your child do when they have tried everything that they have been told to do about bullying and it still fails?

What Will Your Child Do When. . . 

• There is no teacher around.  (The majority of bullying goes on when teachers aren't looking or around.)
• There is no security, parents or person to protect them.
• There is no escape. (Children trapped in a locker room, on a bus, or pinned cannot "just walk away".)
• They are faced to face with a determined bully and being harassed, tormented, picked on or abused.

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5 Steps To Handle a Bully

If you're looking for a way to keep your child from being bullied, picked on harassed or attacked by meaner, bigger kids, then this program is for you.  This isn't a program by some ivory tower pencil pushers who have no idea how to function in the real world other than hiding or begging someone else for help and praying you'll make it through another day.  

A Bodyguard Approach To Bullying

Instead, this is a program that will ARM a child for school and life on how to handle bullying with confidence, inner-strength and dignity.  But don't worry, it also teaches compassion and empathy so they won't become a bully.  In fact, they will learn to value peace, kindness, respect and noble strength.

John Nottingham's 5 Steps To Handle a Bully The Peaceful Way will give your son or daughter the ability to defend themselves against the school bully with practical bully self defense when all else has failed.

• When They Have Tried Just Walking Away 
• When They Ignore It and Still Get Picked On
• When They Have Tried Being Nice
• When They Have Tried Telling a Teacher
• When They Have Tried Telling a Parent
• When They Have Nobody There To Help Them or Tell Them What To Do

What Will Your Child Do When They Feel All Else Has Failed?

Some children resort to turning all that torment inward.  Rage turned inward can become depression and sadness.  Others might over react and take their feelings of anger and rage to extremes.

"Over the past 20 plus years, I've seen the children who the system has failed.  Many of the new anti-bully programs are failing children as well.  Often kids feel trapped, abandoned and alone.  Some begin to hide it and just say everything is OK, all the while they are suffering in silence.  Fortunately, we have solutions and effective answers that have worked for thousands of other children.  That's why I created the Bullying Prevention Initiative International, to share what I have learned with other teachers, parents and coaches.  It works and you can see immediate results."  - John Nottingham

Be a part of the movement to bring common sense to bullying prevention and teach the fundamentals of conflict resolution, self defense and living life with peace of mind.

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An Eagle Scout, veteran, Bodyguard, 7th Degree Black Belt and Master Instructor, John Nottingham is the founder of Nottingham Security Bodyguards and USA Martial Arts Phoenix. His instruction and public speaking has reached over 10,000 men, women and children over his career as a professional protector and instructor.

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Five Tips To Stop Bullying for Kids

Hey Kids!

Do You Have Your Bully Proof Vest?

1. Show Your Inner-Strength. Be assertive in your thoughts, actions and body language, not aggressive or passive. Stand tall, strong and believe in yourself. Confidence, cleverness, and a sense of humor are powerful tools.

2. Be a hallway hero! Take a stand against bullying and stop it in it's tracks. You can be a hero to someone who needs your help. Be courageous enough to speak up, take a stand and get help.

3. Be a victor, not a victim. You are stronger than you think. Practice, role play, and get training. A good martial arts school is an awesome start. You are a unique creation with your own special gifts and abilities. You're worth protecting!

4. Surprise is the greatest technique of all. Do the unexpected like use humor, disappear, show confidence when then expect you to show fear. Don't get drawn into a conflict. Think like a Black Belt, "The battle avoided cannot be lost." Learn what makes you angry and take away the power of bullying.

5. Defend yourself when all else fails. Nobody has the right to hurt you and it's OK to protect yourself and stay safe.

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Are You Teaching Your Children any of These Dangerous Bullying Myths?

"Just Ignore Bullying." "Just Walk Away from Bullying."

Are You Teaching Your Children any of These Dangerous Bullying Myths?

Why Parents Shouldn't Say, "Just Walk Away from Bullying"

Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive behavior involving an imbalance of power, in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally.

If you tell your children to ignore an abusive pattern of behavior the message that they can get is that they are not worth defending. Through experience, they learn that they are a victim and can begin to accept this as part of their identity.

o What parent wants to communicate the message to their child that they are weak, incapable of defense and not worthy of standing up for?

o That it is OK to for a bully to abuse them?

o That their only option is to cower, hide, skulk away without dignity, take the abuse and be subject to harassment from a bully?

Just walk away from bullying is not teaching a child to take the high road. It is teaching a child to take the road of abuse as a permanent victim who gives permission to others to continue bullying without consequence.

In my experience in teaching thousands of children to deal with bullies, this is the case. Many of them had been told by well-intentioned parents, teachers and adults to "just walk away" from the bullying. The results ranged from broken noses, clumps of hair torn out, emotional scarring, poor academic performance, depression, scratches, bruising, and situations that could have been much worse.

Self-defense is a fundamental human right and should not be encroached upon by anyone.

The unintended message of "just walk away from a bully" can be that the child does not have the capability, strength or capacity to effectively handle the problem. It places them in what I call a victimization box that can lead to some very bad choices and consequences. If reinforced, it can become part of their identity and lead to a lifetime of hurt. Furthermore children indicate that the message they get is that their parents and teachers are incapable of helping them. It can lead to feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. For some children it can lead them to more drastic measures.

While passivity, compassion, peace seeking measures are critical and have their place, so does self-defense. They are not mutually exclusive. Although an unpalatable thought for some, it is a reality of living in an imperfect world with people who do bad things. Despite your best efforts, you cannot always control what others do and some people do evil, cruel things to undeserving others.

To equate self defense to violence is dangerous, ignorant and irresponsible form of denial. The consequences to the child can be catastrophic. Bullied students can feel isolated, trapped, alone and feel less of value.

It also sets an individual up for a lifetime of abuse from those who would bully or harass them. Let's assume that you tell your child to, "Just walk away from the bully."

What coping skills did they learn from the bullying experience?

What safety lessons were learned from the bullying problem?

This overly sweeping advice does not fit the variegated experiences and social complexities of bullying, harassment and personal safety. There are multiple factors to be considered, and paramount is the safety and well-being of your child.

In my experience, most parents don't know what else to say so they revert to guesswork or their own limited life experience. While sometimes this can be good, most often it is not appropriate.

Years ago Karate Champion Keith Vitali appeared on television as a guest of the OPRAH Winfrey Show. He was introduced as "a martial artist who believes children should fight". This was a total distortion, but one that some alarmists in the media seem quick to try to make. What he really teaches that it is that using self defense (not fighting) is only a LAST resort, but an important step in teaching child safety.

He challenged the administrator, who was horrified with his self defense approach, by asking the school official what would he recommend once the child is being beaten. The school administrator could offer nothing other than to cry and beg for help, take the abuse and try to get away to tell. Is that an acceptible response for you child? You can read more in his book:

Bullyproof Your Child: An Expert's Advice on Teaching Children to Defend ... By Keith Vitali, Adam Brouillard

A good martial arts instructor can offer force appropriate techniques that manage damage and resolve the physical engagement with little to no serious harm to either child. Like a cornered rat, a child without training may resort to mid-brain, panic options and may have little or no control.

I have had numerous similar experiences working with teachers, school administrators and ivory tower idealists who could defend themselves as children and out of fear and denial were influencing children today with the same ineffectual and impotent ideas. You know the types, the ones that use emotional placebos in place of common sense and practical universal wisdom from natural law. Denial offers no safety.

Deniers are quick to try to make sweeping rules, dramatic gestures and overly simplified policies such as "zero tolerance". As anyone with common sense and practical wisdom knows that these can be well intentioned but often lack common sense and the judgement to view each case on it's individual merits.

You don't make the boogeyman go away by closing your eyes or pulling magic blankets over your head. (I know this from personal experience - although I cling to the idea that my mother had enchanted fabric softener she used to wash blankets with. As long as I just don't put a toe on the floor...)

The other types are just academics so fearful of legal ramifications and liability that they think that their hands are tied along with their God-given common sense.

Surely there are sensible options that teach appropriate steps to respect others, be compassionate, exhaust all options before resorting to physical intervention for self-defense. That's what I have spent my career doing - providing practical evidence based solutions to self defense situations to give people more peace of mind.

I believe that bullying, harassment and learning to deal with aggressive behavior are teaching moments that require us as loving parents and mentors to equip children with the character, confidence, tools and coping mechanisms to be used throughout life. That is not to say that they will be trying to handle a bullying situation alone - not at all. We may have to step in, however we want to give them the chance (if possible in the early stages) to learn that they can stand up for themselves, have choices, options, and therefore some power. It doesn't mean that it will work (although it usually does). But it does send the message that they can exercise some power and regain some personal dignity. They will be better individuals for it.

Putting off or delaying a problem is not resolving it. Problems have a way of resurfacing if we fail to properly address them. This is especially true for bullying, harassment and personal safety self-defense.

Another myth is that confrontation leads to escalation of violence. All confrontation is not escalation. Of course, antagonistic confrontation can lead to escalation but there are methods of confronting bullying to put an end to it that don't encourage escalation. We teach students how to give the bullying person an "out" so they can keep their dignity and have a chance at reconciliation, peace and even friendship.

Just walking away from bullying, just ignore the bully and other simple token phrases may be an option as an early/temporary stop-measure to bullying, however, it is important that we distinguish the real lessons from catch phrases and overly simplified bullying advice.

We need to treat the cause of bullying not just the symptom of bullying.

Rather than rely on luck, shouldn't we use the proven tools for personal safety we have?

Not all bullying situations are the same. The bullying advice needs to fit the situation and that takes a bit of training and practice to learn. Let us be part of that solution and help your child develop the social skills, leadership confidence, inner-strength and tactics to have peace of mind.

For more information on BULLYING PREVENTION please contact me.

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On each Wednesday evening in the month of March, USA Martial Arts Phoenix will be hosting a series of free “Bully Busters - How To Turn Bullies Into Buddies” seminar for children, in order to demonstrate methods of defending and defusing potential situations involving bullies. Participants will be taught how to "Deter, Detect, Deflect and Defend" themselves against abuse from other children using Verbal Judo diffusion techniques, recognizing warning signs early, and brains over brawn violence-prevention social skills.

"The battle avoided cannot be lost." -Caine from the TV series Kung Fu quoting Sun Tzu

The message USA Martial Arts Phoenix staff teaches is that “the highest goal of the martial artist is to prevent violence before it starts”. Other practical lessons from martial arts wisdom include,

"Who is mighty? One who can make friends out of enemies."

Courage, Self Control, Inner Strength, Dignity, Respect
The students will practice various methods of practical and proper use of last resort self defense (only what is necessary to keep from being injured and escape) during the seminar, and afterward will earn a certificate recognize the completion of their training. Interested students will have the option of continuing their education by enrolling for membership at the martial arts school at introductory rates.

Say "NO" To Your Child Being Labeled a Victim
Your child may be a target for bullying but they do not have to be a victim. Unlike other programs promoting "anti-bully" themes in which children are labeled weak self pitying "victims", our program promotes individual responsibility, empowerment and learning skills that can help a child for life. There is hope!

We teach John Nottingham's Three Pronged Bodyguard Bullying Intervention Strategy.  It treats the 1) targeted child of bullying, 2) the bullying behavior as well as 3) the social environment enabling bullying.

AZ Bullying Intervention Initiative - Bullying Prevention Program
This 5 step How to Turn a Bully into a Buddy process encourages strong social skills, confidence building and uses common sense before self defense. Unlike other programs, we'll actually show your child simple and effective "last resort" defensive techniques in case they are physically attacked.  Children learn to problem solve so they develop realistic self defense capabilities that don't always rely on being rescued.

• Children enjoy the exciting martial arts format and learn that they can avoid a fight and still walk away with dignity like a Black Belt.
• Children learn the 3 Shields Strategy and "Bullying Word Blocks" from Verbal Judo, using humor, fear management skills.
• Other children learn the value of being a "Hallway Hero" and "Protector Pal"
• Avoids the political labeling and the failing mindset of "BAD BULLY", "HELPLESS VICTIM" and reveals the danger posed to children in having politically motivated "zero tolerance" policies that lack common sense. The research will shock you (especially the failure and danger of so called "anti-bully" programs).
• Unlike other Bully programs, this HOW TO STOP BULLYING TRAINING is designed to protect children as the priority, rather than only protect the schools and administrators from legal liability (although it will do that too).
• This Bullying Intervention Program prevents blame shifting from children, parents, teachers and school administration by promoting responsibility, communication, mutual respect and common sense problem solving. It gives hurting people the help, compassion and resources they need to change it.

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